I am straight.
There I said it. I came out. I announced it to the world.
No one cares. But when the first active male professional athlete comes out and announces he is gay, the world will care.
I suspect the news will be met with joy, pride, excitement, relief, anger, hatred and confusion. It will mark the Jackie Robinson moment for homosexuals in sports. Somewhere in Major League Baseball, the National Football League, the National Basketball Association and/or the National Hockey League there is at least one closeted player considering coming out. He is contemplating what will change in his life and his career if he announces to the world, “I’m gay!”
Would you care? Should you care? Should it matter?
You would! You should! It should!
Civil rights in this country has been a battle since our Founding Fathers inked their John Hancocks on the Declaration of Independence. We have come a long way since declaring “all men are created equal.” They authored those words on that historic parchment more than 200 years ago. Sadly, in 2013, that all men and women are created equal, is not yet self-evident. Despite all the advancements we have made as a nation on the subject of gay rights, we are still debating them. There are still states that do not recognize marriage equality or support gay rights. There are still politicians who do not want marriage equality or want gay rights. There are still religious leaders who convince their followers that homosexuality is a sin and that they should not support marriage equality and gay rights.
Why? Ignorance. Bigotry. Closed-mindedness. Take your pick.
In 1967, it was illegal in many states for black and whites to marry. Could you even fathom that today? No, you couldn’t. So why can’t men marry men? Women marry women? In a country where the divorce rate is over 50%, the argument that gay marriage threatens the sanctity of marriage is a joke. In November, friends of mine are getting married. They asked me to perform their marriage, so I am getting ordained. I am excited to bring them together as husband and wife. Despite my own marriage not working out for better or worse, I still believe in marriage. But until there is marriage equality throughout the land, I don’t think I will be walking down the aisle again until I can perform gay marriages as well as straight ones.
We live in the USA. The United Sports of America.
Record numbers of Americans tuned in to watch the Ravens outlast the 49ers in New Orleans in Super Bowl XLVII. The lights went out but we didn’t care. We joined together to celebrate football played at the highest level. A thirty-four-minute blackout inside the Superdome didn’t deter us from our joy, pride and excitement. One of the stories of the big game was the end of Ray Lewis’ career. For me, one of the biggest stories of the game was about one of the guys playing right next to him, Brendon Ayanbadejo.
Brendon is an articulate, soft-spoken, hard-nosed linebacker. He looks like a man. Tall, dark, handsome. All-American. Super Bowl champion. Gay rights activist and marriage equality supporter. Brendon is the son of an Irish-American mother and Nigerian father. He was born just a few years after it became legal for black men to marry white women in this country. He grew up recognizing that this nation is truly a melting pot and he was one of those well-blended individuals.
When the state of Maryland was preparing for its own vote on marriage equality, he supported it. Despite State Legislator Emmett Burns attacking him, publicly, he was a voice of reason for an idea long overdue. He was a voice inside a locker room in one of the biggest boys’ clubs in the world, an NFL clubhouse. Maryland voted to support marriage equality in November in part because of a football player talking out about what is right.
As Ayanbadejo was coming under fire, a punter thousands of miles away came out and supported him, Chris Kluwe. Kluwe kicks a ball. He doesn’t do much hitting but he is just as much a bad-ass as Brendon. A product of UCLA, Chris is another very outspoken supporter of gay rights simply because he knows we are all the same. After learning of Burns’ comments against Brendon, Kluwe wrote his own op-ed piece with some really colorful language and extremely valid points. If you don’t think a guy that makes a living measuring success in hang time can make a difference, you are wrong.
Hudson Taylor was a wrestler. Not the Hulk Hogan or The Rock kind, but tough and physical nonetheless. These days his most successful moves are not by pile driver but by the pen. Taylor wore a Human Rights Campaign Equality sticker on his helmet in college. He made a statement then, and now as the founder of Athlete Ally, he is making more statements. Athlete Ally’s mission is to encourage “all individuals involved in sports to respect every member of their communities, regardless of perceived or actual sexual orientation, gender identity or gender expression, and to lead others in doing the same.”
In 2000, Cyd Zeigler co-founded the website OutSports.com. Cyd created the site to promote the accomplishments and stories of gay athletes around the world. He has been on the front lines in the conversation about homosexuality in sports. Zeigler knows on the field it only matters how you can play, not who you love. His journalistic career is dedicated to telling the stories of gay athletes.
Politics and sports seem to go hand in hand. Strange bedfellows, but we love strange bedfellows. So why do some people have a problem if those bedfellows are of the same sex? Playing sports? Brian Ellner has mixed his love of politics and sports for years. Ellner led the charge for the gay rights votes in Minnesota, Maryland, Maine and Washington states. He has worked tirelessly to help make life equal for everyone in the LGBT community. Ellner has worked with politicians, entertainers and sports stars to further not only the discussion on gay rights but make sure these rights are a reality for all.
Monday night, Kluwe, Ayanbadejo, Taylor, Zeigler and Ellner joined me on my radio show for a summit on gay rights, homosexuality and homophobia in sports. It was a fascinating two-hour discussion with five men dedicated to one goal; gay rights and marriage equality. We laughed and got serious. We discussed the good, the bad and the ugly of sports and humanity on the subject. We shared ideas and wondered when, not if, an active professional male athlete will stand at a podium and say, “I’m gay.”
Radio shows rarely discuss this topic. On sports radio shows even more rarely. Maybe it’s because of ratings. Maybe it’s because most hosts don’t care or don’t have the balls to discuss the last taboo subject in sports.
Jackie Robinson came out in 1947. He didn’t have to say, “I’m black,” because everyone knew. It wasn’t a secret. Robinson had Pee Wee Reese to put his arm around him to show the world that teammates don’t care what the color of your skin is or who you love, they just care that you can play the game.
There are plenty of Pee Wees in the big four major leagues.
There is a gay Jackie Robinson too.
And we do care!
Related radio shows and columns by Bruce Silverman:
2-11-2013 Radio Show: Chris Kluwe, Brendon Ayanbadejo, Hudson Taylor, Cyd Zeigler and Brian Ellner
9-17-2012 Radio Show: Chris Kluwe, Cyd Zeigler, Ryan Walsh, Jamie Kuntz & Gay Rights in Sports
7-30-2012 Radio Show: No More Chick-Fil-A in Sports, the Olympics & More with Cyd Zeigler and Hudson Taylor
7-20-2012 Column: Now is the Time to End the Chick-Fil-A Relationship with Atlanta Bowl Game